She is loved in spite of herself....

I just can't seem to shake the writer's block of late. I was even supposed to have a guest writer because of that but he let me down big time (apparently he was having a slow day! Yeah right! I know what you was doing :)) anyway in this writer's block's bubble, I got to spend sometime with someone last evening and we talked about a lot of things but what caught my ears and part of my heart was his take on love. I know, I know, I have been talking a lot about this subject called LOVE for a long time now but I know for a fact that its insanity is what is keeping the world sane.

There are different kinds of LOVE. The love for God,  for family, love for friends, love for workmates, love for heroes/heroins and love for a longtime partner.All these differ in quantity and in quality but either way we love. It is one thing God put in us that is so human, so beautiful, so refreshing BUT we abuse it, and for all the wrong reasons.I like how God puts it (or rather the bible), that the love for humankind was so great and unconditional that he gave up His only son to save the ungrateful humans. Humans who would kill others if it would do them good, humans who have become so vain, material things matter more than LOVE for their neighbor, sometimes it breaks my heart that we have such a loving God and he rarely gets all the love in return.

So anyways back to my friend (and he is a dude mark you). I got curious about his love life and decided to ask what is it about his girlfriend that he loves so much? What is that one thing? Now most of us would say something like he's honest, kind, communicates yada yada some would be kind or vain enough to say how they love the fact that he is tall, or she has all the right curves in all the right places...You get the drift right? Now here is what he said, almost made me fell out of my seat...and I was not seated on a stool (chuckle)

"I LOVE HER IN SPITE OF HERSELF"

That is all he told me. As open ended as it sounds, its the most sincere thing I have heard someone say about the one they love.That in spite of the occasional bad hair days, and the bouts of facial breakout, and the spew moments of diva syndrome, he still loves her...not because she is perfect, but because he has soaked all her imperfections and has decided to look beyond the surface. I thought that was beautiful and for a moment there I seriously envied this girlfriend. Then he went ahead and said...

"The simplest math God put in place was 1+1=1. That a man should join with his wife and become one thing (Lessons learned from his father). And that one thing was always going to remain a whole as long as the two decided to make it that way. That should a man not listen to his wife and instead condemn her to voicelessness, he reduces himself to nothingness. When that man looks in the mirror, the only thing he will see is nothingness, simply because to make him feel like something he has decided to look down upon himself in form of his wife"

My evening was made. I began to believe in irrational, unconditional love again. I might not find that person now but I will pass it on to the people I love the most. Those who make me what and who I am. I have a knack for saying it like it is, and most of the time am misunderstood (irrelevant to this post, just wanted to make a point hehehe)

So today spread your wings and spread some love. Life is too short to fear rejection and or heartbreak. Be naive but be smart and just LOVE just as our Father in Heaven Loves...

Till later muchahos :*