What would we do without the Good book? Nuggets of wisdom

Love thy neighbor as you love thy self. Simple rule of life..that for you to love your neighbor it has to start with the attitude you carry for yourself. Many people say they love, they are in love and they have fallen, but with what? looks, money, the arrogant flair he does things with? Easy to say but rarely easy to achieve in totally. In this journey of life I have embarked in finding out what it really means to love thine self....so I will try and break it down:)

• When you love yourself you think highly of yourself

I don't mean that you treat others with disrespect, that you look down upon them because they don't have what you have..what I mean is that you learn how to assert yourself, that you learn to differentiate between respect and humiliation, that you know your capabilities and you work on them, that you know your flaws and embrace them with the mindset of making yourself a better person, that you learn to face your demons every waking day with the support systems God has instilled around and within you. That you simply learn to respect yourself then, only then will the respect flow to others and it will be reciprocated without doubts or questions...

• When you love your self, you enjoy your own company

I must admit, am one of those people who can't stand to stay alone for long periods of time without needing company. I easily get bored and  I start looking for ways to kill the time. I had a conversation with a friend of mine who shared that he loved his own company. In his company he reflects, gets in touch with the inner self and learns truth about himself. Only then are his talents unraveled,his spirituality awakened and his OWN ideas generated, then when he has company,its very easy for him to engage them in his world and in turn discover his company's world. If that is not beautiful then what is? I had never looked at it that way, so many time we are occupied with the people around us we forget to get time to consume OURSELVES, to enjoy the wonderful creation that is US...when we learn to do that then we start to appreciate the value of others in our lives. We no longer start thinking that so and so is trying to steal the thunder from me, but we begin to see their talents as complementary to ours then we know that we have achieved selfless love.

• When you love yourself, you embrace EVERYTHING that make you YOU

We all fall victim to the I don't like my nose, don't like my hair yada yada syndrome. YES even men do that even though they don't do it in front of our eyes. But have you ever thought that that is how God wanted you to look? What would be the fun in all of us looking alike? Having the same full hair, same shapely bodies, same thick/thin legs? BORING is the word! When I look into the mirror, I see a beautiful young girl cum woman...but that was not always the case,I hated myself for sometime there and in turn hated everyone who had something I wanted....Then came the journey to embracing myself and I started seeing the beautiful eyes everyone sees, the full hair people envy, the thick blemish-less legs men droll over, the shapely body God oh so gratefully gave me and I begun to understand even with the blackheads and the thick waist I AM still God's very creation and at his seat on the throne he smiles and nods His head at how genius he was to create such a beautiful being! I don't fret no more, I just AM....

So today grab a paper and write everything you HATE about yourself and all the things you LOVE.When the  HATE outweighs the LOVE you have got some work to do. And you will realize that you project this to the people around you, you treat them like the sole of your shoe because that is what you feel about yourself, you blame others for being inadequate because you feel you are not adequate enough to match to them, you choke with envy when you see someone with something you wish you had because you don't LOVE yourself enough to appreciate what you have got and embrace diversity.

So be, start the journey! Go to Uhuru Gardens alone sit under a tree with a good book and enjoy your company..start embracing YOURSELF and it will reflect with others. You will see that now you will love your man with all his  fault because you too are not perfect, you will understand your mom because she too is going through stuff, you will beam when you colleague outshines you because you see it as am opportunity to grow and  unleash those talents to be better than them, you will encourage your friend to pursue that career they have always wanted because you know you and her combined are the dynamic duo! JUST START you will be surprised with how much sense of achievement and LOVE you will feel around you.

Till later muchachos :* as always your thoughts my breeding ground so don't feel shy share:)