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criticism [ˈkrɪtɪˌsɪzəm]n

1. the act or an instance of making an unfavorable or severe judgment, comment, etc. 

That is what the English dictionary  makes of criticism. The act of making an unfavorable or severe judgement, comment...harsh huh? I don't think so.

As human beings we thrive on praise. When we do something we expect people to clap and beam at our magnificence, to melt at or ingenious self, to bow at our awesomeness because we think we have outdone ourselves. But it is those who value criticism who prevail in this life. It requires being beyond human to accept and embrace criticism and to pick what is good critism and what is not.

I am a 20 something year old who is still very inexperienced in a lot of things in life. I still go for the bad boy instead of the nice boy even after being hurt, I still hurt my friends without knowing how to be sensitive to their needs, I still think my mother is being obnoxious when she tells me I need to be presentable in front of my elders when I feel like showing some flesh... I do a lot of stupid things but I learned early how to know good and bad criticism. See I was taken to boarding at a very young age and there I had to learn very fast that this world is not a cosy as at home where I was my parents apple in the eye. People will do anything to get ahead and they will not care about how they do it. That was about one and a half decades ago...come to today's world. That said lets see what makes for criticism;

Two types of criticism here: Negative and positive criticism

Positive criticism comes with solutions: [1]I think that hairstyle does not suit your face BUT we can do something about it, lets try this. [2]That message does not portray what the company wants BUT we can always try and add certain words to make it exceptional...that is what am talking about. When someone criticizes with this mind set, it opens you up to other ideas and you start to brainstorm about things seeking better solutions to better  the already existing status quo.

Negative criticism comes with hatred:[1]I think that hairstyle bring out the stupid in you, nothing will clearly ever look good on you. [2] That message is shady and makes the Company sound like a joke, clearly this team and its Company is doomed to failure. Such criticism should be avoided, Ignored and totally DISMISSED simply because it has no value addition to you. This having been pointed out clearly....Wait for it! wait for it!......

.....YES, I know people who think they are unstoppable, while self confidence is admirable, modesty remains a virtue to be upheld. These category of people will take on something and reach for the heavens through climbing feaces (no pun intended). They will not consult on what they are doing because they think other people's opinions are useless~ while some people can try to weigh others down, some have very valuable opinions~ and when something does not quiet turn out the way they wanted and people give their critical opinions, they take it personally and it turn think everyone is against them. They fail to understand that criticism builds a critical mind, and critical minds develop outstanding selves...If everyone had been perfect then we would not have strived to make new discoveries! 

Opinions being entirely mine, I detest such mindset because instead of looking awesome making snooty comments, you look stupid and incompetent in front of other people. Acceptance is part of growing up. It makes 20 something year old's like me grow up to be exceptional human beings :) Positive criticism is what matures a person and makes them develop a mind to envy.. that having being said, strive on being awesome at what you do, I might critise or praise, its your attitude towards what I have said the will make  me think you are not only awesome but worth 1000000000 diamonds of GREATNESS!!

ION- Jessie J rocking my afternoon :)

Till later muchachos :* With blogging internet back, am a happy woman today :)